A Stripper’s Guide To Visiting The Strip Club

I love the strip club, it’s a magical place full of gorgeous women who are extraordinary dancers & deserve all the money in the world! I’ve worked in Europe and Australia so my knowledge is most accurate to those locations however much of this info is applicable worldwide. If you want to have a good time at one, there’s some etiquette you should know that’ll ensure you treat the strippers right and in turn they’ll often treat you to more of a show too. I have a lot of different demographics viewing my content so for ease of reading, I’ve split it into a few categories for you:

General Strip Club Rules

A lot of people don’t realise that the club entry fee isn’t used to pay the strippers, it goes straight to the club so don’t assume that the entry or drinks result in being able to attend without spending further. The strippers don’t get paid by the club at all, at many clubs they actually pay a house fee to work. All of their income comes from tips and dances they sell - this often isn’t common knowledge & leads to clientele mistakenly thinking they’ve paid to see the stage shows and don’t need to spend further. 

Always hit the ATM before you go to the club. Some have one inside but not necessarily all and cash is always preferred. In terms of spending, a general rule is if you haven’t tipped for the last 30 minutes, or gotten a dance in the last 60 minutes, it’s time to spend or move on. This time limit gets shorter if it’s a space limited club and you’re taking up spots that other people who are keen to get in and start spending could be enjoying.

Talking To Strippers:

If you are in a strip club, you’ll need to be prepared to be approached by dancers asking if you’d like to go for a dance. While it’s normal to want to buy a pretty girl a drink, a better option is to tip the dancer and let her know she can use the money to get herself a drink or keep it as a tip if she prefers. Make sure to stay away from any personal topics and if you’re not sure whether you can ask something, lead with “if you don’t mind me asking…” so she can easily let you know she doesn’t like to talk about that if she needs to. 

If you’ve been talking to a stripper for up to 5 minutes, it’s best to make your intentions clear. Take the lead and take her for a dance or ask for dance prices if you’re ready. If you need more time to settle in before you go for a dance but do intend to let her know with a time frame such as  “let’s go after I finish this drink”. If you want more time to chat before you go, tip her for her time. $5-20 is a good minimum amount for 5-10 mins more chatting during which you can decide if you’d like a dance or not. 

If you’re not interested, thank her for her time and let her know you’re not interested in a dance with her today. Make sure not to tell her “maybe later” if you have no intention of booking her. It may seem like a kinder way to let her know you’re not interested but it instead provides false hope and will have her circling back to you again later for you to need to turn her down again.

Stage Shows:

You don’t have to tip every dancer but if someone catches your eye enough to watch them, make sure you tip even if no one else is! Some clubs have tipping dollars available for purchase but cash is preferred as the dancer will get to keep the whole amount rather than having an often 50% cut taken by the club. Most clubs have tipping seats which are designated seats near the stage that require patrons to be tipping to sit in. Make sure you only take these seats when you’re tipping and always ask where you can tip or only put the tip in the garment strap or on the part of the body that the dancer offers. 

Private Dances:

These are such incredible and intimate experiences and I highly recommend getting one if you can. Every club’s rules on touch will vary so be sure to ask the dancer for an explanation of what you can and can’t do if you’re unsure and stick with that. If you want to make a stripper’s night, remember to tip her during or at the end of the dance unprompted. Private dances can be absolutely bewitching so keep that in mind if you’re on a budget.  When a gorgeous naked woman asks you if you want to go for another 10 minutes, it’s very hard to say no. Even as a stripper I struggle with it. Strippers are just so beautiful.

Getting Stripper Contact Details:

While some clubs allow strippers to exchange details with patrons, many don’t. Ask a dancer if they’re allowed to share socials and if they’re eager but not allowed, ask if they can go to the strip club’s social media page and search for the dancer’s name through their followers. As per any other social situation, if they aren’t eager to share their contact, respect their privacy and don’t ask more than once. 

These socials should be used only to speak to the dancer about coming in to book a dance, not for personal chats. You can also see from a dancer’s instagram bio link if they have other links connected such as online content or private bookings.

How To Visit The Strip Club As A Woman

Women can also have a wonderful time at the strip club! Keep in mind that being a woman doesn’t excuse any behaviours that would not be acceptable in men such as not spending. Unfortunately if you go without a man, you will need to expect to be hit on by patrons as well. If this is a horrifying concept for you, I highly recommend booking a private stripper (like me!) for a party or private meet instead. 

Strippers are often careful with women and less likely to approach them due to prior bad experiences. Don’t take this personally, instead just check if you’re in line with any of the behaviours that they avoid and directly approach a dancer if you’re interested.

Are you there with a male partner and giving off any body language that you’re stopping him from spending? Jealous partners are a pet peeve of many strippers as it sparks drama and can drain them during a long night of work as they’re expected to take on the emotional load of entertaining the man while placating the woman.

Are you cheering the stage but not tipping? The pole community’s closest interactions with stripshows are often pole showcases. While cheering is appropriate in these spaces, it isn’t at the club as strippers are often already overstimulated by loud music and don’t need any more noise input. Appreciate with your tips instead and avoid judging strippers by their pole skills or dancing. Much of the pole dance studio world does an inadequate job of educating their students about strippers and what stripping really is. Technique and tricks have nothing to do with a stripper’s success or worth in a job based on seduction and flirting so it’s important to actively check yourself if you have these thoughts. 

Women can often be fantastic clients and I’ve enjoyed some incredible private dances with women in my time as a stripper. Don’t let the clubs being used to male patrons hold you back from having an amazing experience.

How To Visit The Strip Club On A Budget

Keep in mind that the strip club is a luxury so very budget options don’t exist. Many clubs have entry fees that are higher during peak hours (Frid & Sat nights) but may be lower or free during weekdays or during the day time. The minimum you can pay to get a private dance is usually around $50 AUD but that may be around 4-6 mins and be more restrictive than other dances. For example, it may be a topless only dance rather than full nude strip or a no touch dance in an otherwise touch allowed club.

If you only want to touch the dancers in the form of tipping the stage, I would suggest having at least $20 AUD as smaller notes or tipping dollars. This is enough for one stage set of tipping a dancer but doesn’t guarantee you much time or attention from her. Remember that tipping doesn’t mean being able to touch the dancer freely, only placing notes into the straps of her lingerie if she offers it.

How To Sleep With A Stripper

Some strippers also offer FS privately, many do not. All will get in trouble for talking about it at the club. The best way to go about working out if a stripper does is by asking for their social media handle and seeing if they have a link offering escorting services as well. 

Sleeping with strippers is a fantasy that is often associated with rude and boundary pushing clients. You should avoid seeking out strippers with the intent of full service. Escorts and brothels exist for this purpose. If you’d like a girl who does both, searching an escorting directory for someone who offers striptease services is a good option.

How To Visit The Strip Club If You’re Not There For The Strippers:

The most common reason why people go to a club but aren’t interested in tipping the stage or getting a lap dance is buck parties and partners or friends of someone who does want to go.

Bucks Parties:

If you are a member of a bucks party who does not want to spend on strippers, ideally bring some money to tip the stage (you do not have to touch the dancer as you tip, you can also just throw the dollars and make it rain!). If you’re in a relationship that prevents you from spending in any form, buy the buck a lap dance or tipping dollars and make sure you politely let any strippers that approach you know a few minutes into conversation that you’re not here for dances but have given the buck money to tip/get a dance. You can also point her out to which members of your party are buying dances.

Partners:

If your partner is going to the strip club and you want to keep an eye on them, the best thing to do is to not go, and if you’re not comfortable with that neither of you should be going. Strippers can read energy very clearly and nothing is worse than getting caught in between a couple’s conflict. As a general rule, strippers tend to avoid couples at all as pleasing 2 people and managing the dynamic between them is a lot more work. 

Friends:

If you’re attending for moral support but don’t want to get a private dance of your own, you’ll still need money to tip the dancers. If you’re not able to due to your relationship status or any other reason, make sure you shout your friend some tipping dollars or a dance.